Facilitate the opposing party’s custody as much as possible.

If you thought it was your job to prevent the other side from exercising custody, you haven't been paying attention to commonsense or the law. If the other parent is fit, or a court has found them to be fit, then it is your job as a parent to ensure the child benefits from the love and companionship of the other parent.

Take for instance the Pennsylvania statute, which many other states have versions of:

§ 5303. Award of custody, partial custody or visitation.

(a) General rule.--In making an order for custody, partial custody or visitation to either parent, the court shall consider, among other factors, which parent is more likely to encourage, permit and allow frequent and continuing contact and physical access between the noncustodial parent and the child...... (emphasis added)

Notice the bold part. The court is to consider whether you are the parent who will facilitate the other parent's relationship with the child. So you should bend over backwards to facilitate custody in the other parent. Doing otherwise is grounds to rule for custody in that other parent.

Many parents fail to realize that if they are viewed as obstructionist, they may have won battles, but they will ultimately lose the custody war. So don't work to deny the child the other parent if you want to have and keep primary custody. - MORE ON THIS TIP

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TIP #10 - Know your own limits and needs.

10 ways to better your chances of getting custody.

1. Find an adequate / safe living environment.
2. Stay in the same school district
3. Find a job / work schedule that fits the children’s routine.
4. Avoid cohabitation too soon in a new relationship
5. Find and keep stability in all aspects of your life.
6. Hire  a lawyer who knows custody and who you can afford.
7. Put the children’s needs above the custody fight.
8. Don’t involve the children in the custody fight.
9. Facilitate the opposing party’s custody as much as possible.
10. Know your own limits and needs.

• Delaware - 13 Del. C. §§ 1901 to 1925
• Florida - Fla. Stat. §§ 61.1302 to 61.1348
• Hawaii - HRS §§ 583-1 to 583-26
• Illinois
• Indiana
• Kentucky -K.R.S. §§ 403.400 to 403.630
• Maryland - Code, Family Law, §§ 9-201 to 9-224
• Massachusetts

• Mississippi - Code, Title 93, Ch. 23
• Missouri - V.A.M.S. §§ 452.440 to 452.550
• Nebraska - §§ 43-1201 to 43-1225.
• Nevada
• New Hampshire §§ 458-A
• New Jersey -  N.J.S.A. §§ 2A:34-28 to 2A:34-52
• Ohio - R.C. §§ 3109.21 to 3109.37
• Pennsylvania

• Rhode Island
• South Carolina - Code 1976, §§ 20-7-782 to 20-7-830
• South Dakota
• Vermont
• Virgin Islands - V.I. Code Title 16, Ch. 4
• Wisconsin
• Wyoming

• Alabama - Code 1975, §§ 30-3-20 to 30-3-44
• Alaska - Ch. 25.30.300 to 25.30.910
• Arizona - A.R.S. §§ 25-431 to 25-454
• Arkansas - Title 9, Ch. 19
• California - Division 8, Part 3
• Colorado - C.R.S.A. Title 14, Art. 13
• Connecticut
• District of Columbia - D.C. Code Division II, Title 16, Ch. 46
• Georgia - O.C.G.A. §§ 19-9-40 to 19-9-64
• Idaho - I.C. §§ 32-1101 to 32-1126

• Iowa
• Kansas - K.S.A. §§ 38-1336 to 38-1377
• Maine
• Michigan
• Minnesota
• Montana
• New Mexico - NMSA Ch. 40, Art. 10A
• New York - Domestic Relations, Art. 5-A
• North Carolina - G.S. §§  50A-1 to 50A-25
• North Dakota (PDF) - NDCC 14-14-01 to 14-14-26

• Oklahoma - Okl.St.Ann. §§ 551-101 to 551-402.
• Oregon - ORS §§ 109.700 to 109.930
• Tennessee - Tenn. Code Title 36, Ch. 6, Part 2
• Texas
• Utah
• Virginia - Title 20, Chapter 7.1
• Washington - RCW 26.27.010 to 26.27.910