More on facilitating the opposing party’s
custody as much as possible.

In part I of this tip, we told you to share custody as a means of keeping or increasing your custody.

So what can you do to "facilitate the other parent's custody"? What does this mean in practice? Here are a few examples, assuming there is some level of communication between the parties...

1. When the other parent asks for an extra day, give it to them. Be flexible to accommodate special events and opportunities that they have for the child during your periods of custody
2. When your schedule makes a babysitter or other child care necessary, offer the time to the other parent, so they can have extra time with the child if they are available.
3. If possible make sure the grandparents and other extended family on the opposing side are invited to special events involving the child, and made aware of sporting events and extra curricular activities.

Doing these things will impress upon the court that you are not an inflexible parent who denies the child and the other parent extra opportunities.

Of course, if you are in a contested custody matter, or litigation is still pending, keeping track of these "extras" is important. Even making the offers for extra time, if they are not accepted is beneficial to your position in a contested custody case.

Back to TIP #9 - Facilitate the opposing party’s custody as much as possible.

Or on to TIP #10 - Know your own limits and needs.

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10 ways to better your chances of getting custody.

1. Find an adequate / safe living environment.
2. Stay in the same school district
3. Find a job / work schedule that fits the children’s routine.
4. Avoid cohabitation too soon in a new relationship
5. Find and keep stability in all aspects of your life.
6. Hire  a lawyer who knows custody and who you can afford.
7. Put the children’s needs above the custody fight.
8. Don’t involve the children in the custody fight.
9. Facilitate the opposing party’s custody as much as possible.
10. Know your own limits and needs.